Tuesday, November 29, 2005

Brick-bats and Bouquets

Brick-bats and Bouquets: Very often we receive from persons known to us as well as from persons not known to us, encomiums, complimentary words and at times nasty remarks for our actions and also for the work we have done. These words- good and bad -are two sides of the same coin. Good words received by us, we forget soon , but nasty remarks we get, remain indelible in our mind for quite some time. These good and bad words we receive, are because of our touch with people in every walk of life. In our practical life, such meetings cannot be avoided. Because, it is only through such man-to-man contacts and our mixing freely with people in general, that one can form an estimate of himself and his capacity. However a word of caution here is that, there are people readier in this world to take measure of the capacity of others than of themselves.One has to be careful in dealing with such people. Coming back to criticisms and remarks -good and bad, and complimentary words, they have all to be taken in the right spirit, and in the right manner, with the sole object of correcting ourselves if they are bad, and improving further, if they are not derogatory. He who shuns criticisms and thinks himself as though he is too wise to learn from others, will never thrive in life and never succeed in doing anything ,either good or great. With such a thinking in him, he is apt to become conceited, puffed-up, claiming too much and arrogant too. And he will remain ignorant of himself. One should not fall in this trap. Whenever we hear of criticisms on something we have done , we have to keep our mind expanded and spreadout, and our heart wide open,so that we try to give a thought to it and learn more of the good side coming out of the criticism.. There is no question of feeling ashamed when receiving criticisms and learning things from them. There is no age bar for learning. If necessary one can take the help of those who are wiser and more experienced than himself for learning. When we give thought to the criticisms we hear, and learn to interpret and explain their meaning and their necessity, which come under our observation during the course of our daily life, we educate ourselves and learn to judge and solve things correctly. From:T.S.Sundaram.Posted by tssundaram_80 on Mon, Nov 21, 2005, 8:38 am PST
I agree with you tssundaram_80. There is no cut-off point of learning or bettering yourself. I only wish pepole could realize its not about them or me or you its always about 'us'. We are all in and of the same. No matter how different or superior one may feel they are always subject and sometimes due for change--for the better! A critical eye should be able to look at self as well. Sat NamPosted by lizshaw1978 on Mon, Nov 21, 2005, 10:27 am PST


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